Funke Felix-Adejumo urges African wives to embrace their sexuality for stronger marriages
On Thursday, April 3, Bishop Funke Felix-Adejumo, co-founder of Agape Christian Ministries, boldly addressed an important topic: the need for African women to fully embrace their sexuality and openly communicate their desires within marriage.
In a video shared on Instagram, she challenged the long-standing cultural taboos that discourage open discussions about intimacy, emphasizing the importance of mutual pleasure and honest communication for a vibrant and lasting relationship.
Felix-Adejumo began by confronting societal expectations that often suppress a woman’s sexual expression. “I like sex. If I don’t, how will I have children? And you are just pretending, you like sex. African culture has told you that a woman should not show that she enjoys sex, otherwise they will call her a prostitute,” she stated, acknowledging how these deeply ingrained beliefs harm both individual well-being and marital health.
She went on to emphasize that women need to reject these outdated mentalities to build stronger, more intimate relationships with their spouses. “When the man is touching you, you’re happy. So, the first thing is to disbelieve that in your mind, otherwise, you’ll be causing problems in your marriage,” Felix-Adejumo explained, urging women to overcome internalized guilt or shame surrounding their sexual desires.
The respected bishop also encouraged wives to be more expressive during intimate moments. “Tell yourself, sex is good. I want my husband. And when you’re having sex with your husband, don’t pretend and just be like missionary. Talk, moan, sex is good,” she said, highlighting the importance of authenticity and openness in sexual relationships. She urged women to embrace the beauty of physical connection, breaking free from societal expectations of silence.
Felix-Adejumo warned that suppressing one’s sexual desires could lead to emotional and marital strain. “You cannot believe that African mentality. Let’s change it. The devil is using it to destroy marriages because that’s the highest level of intimacy,” she said, advocating for a shift in how African society perceives sexual health within marriage.
To conclude, the bishop urged women to nurture and reinforce their marriages with affection. “Tickle your husband, touch him when he’s making love to you. When he finishes, tell him he did a good job,” she suggested, reinforcing the importance of positive reinforcement and physical affection as key ingredients in maintaining a strong marital bond.
On Thursday, April 3, her message continues to spark conversation about the role of women’s sexuality in African marriages, calling for a more open and supportive approach to discussing intimacy.
